Kids adore their parents when they are younger. So, when they grow up and leave for university, it can be a huge shock, and 'empty nest syndrome' can hit hard. Who will you argue with? Who will keep you busy? Will you and your partner get bored? All of these questions come rushing into the mind, but the scariest thing is losing contact. Eighteen year-olds need space and their university halls provide the perfect backdrop. Yet, mums and dads need to know everything is okay and that they are safe. Conversing while not smothering them is a difficult balancing act, but it’s not impossible. Here’s how to connect with the kids as they attempt to spread their wings.

Make It Weekly

Your son or daughter wants to have a good time, and they will forget about home in the process. Try not to get offended because it’s a hazard of moving out! Kids still want to find time for their parents, though; they just don’t want to do it all of the time. A great way to get your fix while giving them room to breathe is to call once a week. A long phone call will help you get your fill while your son or daughter also gets to reconnect. 

Find 'Urgent' Topics 

here is always something which is urgent in their life and mums are the first port of call. Of course, they laid back to the point of being horizontal so won’t broach the topic. However, they won’t get mad at you for getting in touch. For example, a letter from the bank or student loans office might have arrived and they need informing. Or, Magenta storage solutions might have a resolution for when they leave halls and move into student accommodation. Just make sure it’s legit before placing the call. 

Organise A Road Trip 

New students can become obsessed with university life to the point where they won’t come home for months. Plus, they can’t afford the train fare! Still, that doesn’t mean you can’t go to see them and take a look around. You and your partner can make a weekend of it while getting to spend quality time with your long-lost child. And, they’ll be happy to show you around and have lunch or dinner if it’s been a while. They’ll be in even higher spirits if you pick up the tab. Parents shouldn’t go every week, but once every couple of months is fine.

Exploit Breaks

When term time is over and they do return, you should come up with fun activities. Don’t force them into doing anything because they will have plans of their own. However, organising to go shopping or to go out for lunch is a fantastic way to spend the day together. Some days, you might sit at home and watch TV together during the day. The trick is to be close without getting on their nerves. Otherwise, the chances of them coming home for summer are slim.